Now I know why I don't like the too nice ones

I just recently read this article and was happily relieved because it helped me realize what is it that bugs me about the too happy people. I have always found that people who are too nice also have this streak of complying and falling in which used to get on my nerves because I can always sense it but never quite put my ginger on it. It is an extension of the Milgram experiment which went on and looked at the people who were willing to shock others when told to do so.

Here is what the researchers found-
People who were normally friendly followed orders because they didn't want to upset others, while those who were described as unfriendly stuck up for themselves.

"The irony is that a personality disposition normally seen as antisocial — disagreeableness — may actually be linked to 'pro-social' behavior,'" writes Psychology Today's Kenneth Worthy. "This connection seems to arise from a willingness to sacrifice one's popularity a bit to act in a moral and just way toward other people, animals or the environment at large. Popularity, in the end, may be more a sign of social graces and perhaps a desire to fit in than any kind of moral superiority."

I am in the beautiful city of Seattle and have a lot of time at hand. I have had my fill of furniture shopping and decorating the place and hanging out with MBAs. I don't want to discuss any more MBA-y topics like how is the new phone going to pan out in the market or how is Google in a unique position or how Microsoft can do certain things better. I am done with thoughts and sharing them. What I need now is action and the company of interesting people who do fun things.

Before, you make a snap judgment that I am another girl whining about life....let me tell you that I have taken concrete steps to help my cause. I have started with listing down the things I can pursue. Here they are-

1. Sailing: I want to learn sailing and then buy a boat and sail around. While the buying a boat can wait, the sailing lessons can be easily fixed coz the school is just one block down from here. I also like the calm demeanor that most of the surfing/sailing instructors have.
2. Golfing: This is something that my friend inspired me to do. Only problem is that it's slightly more expensive and you have to drive forever to find a golf course. Right now, my skill level is 'can-drive-a-ball-fifty-meters-or so'. Guess this is gonna take a lot of time but has its own rewards. To golf well, you see, one needs to have a clear mind. So, golfing is a great way to practice clearing your mind.
3. Rock Climbing: This is something I have always wanted to do and Seattle is just the place to pursue this. I have been working out and I feel that with a little more work on my grip and legs, I will be very rock climbing ready. 
4. Learn a new language: When I think about it I am open to a programming language or a language language. The thoughts of programming language elicits a Blah! from me coz it ain't sexy enough. When it comes to language languages, I think of Spanish and French. While, Spanish sounds cool and I will be able to appreciate a lot of movies, a lot of my favorite books were originally written in French. Also, my French skills are way better than my Spanish right now and I keep getting Rosetta Stone deals on my Facebook every now and then. Winder how they sniffed it. 
5. Crafty Stuff: I have always been a crafts girl but recently the idea of spending an evening quilting makes me balk.This is stuff I can do after I am retired and too old to rock climb or sail. So, no crafts right now. 

Now...

I am starting to feel like myself again and the rest of me will grow back....eventually.

Stolen moments

Life goes on at its pace and we spend time and I go along...at times trying hard to keep up with its pace....at times feeling totally in control....and at other times sitting back and watching as it slips through our fingers. Days, weeks and months go by in a haze and at times you end up wondering where did all the time go.

But then there are moments when you somehow manage to isolate yourself from that constant flow of life. Like, between the plates of a capacitor in an electric loop. Today, I was a little late for class and decided to skip it. Here I am, completely at peace because there is nothing pressing on my mind. I actually just sat back and observed people. I really saw people going about their morning as opposed to just quickly scanning through my world via lenses of preconceived notions. Kind of like being in the moment and seeing everything for what it is right now as opposed to just quickly dumping things in boxes I have created in my mind over time.

Yap-yap-yap

People don't stop talking and at times all the non-stop yapping gets to me. The underlying actions remain the same and they keep doing it over and over and over again. The same scene keeps playing on and on and on and drives you crazy. All I want them to do is to drop the act, shut up and do something for once.

smileys and slangs

Boy: Hey, I think you were looking great today.

Girl: What??

Boy:  :P

Just putting that one smiley at the end of a statement makes it OK. Frees you from the burden of responsibility for owning what you said. What this trend of smileys and slangs like LOL has done is make our conversations less sincere. It has made us responsible for what we say because you can always add a smiley or LMAO and escape the responsibility of being associated with a thought.

as the poet in you rests

You have a laid in a corner....your poetry scalpels
Just tell me one thing....
....where do I go for the giggles :P